The Untimely Death…of a Friendship
We’ve mostly all been there…experienced the end of a friendship without an explanation or even a bit of being in the know. Losing a friendship is a hard thing to go through. And it’s even harder when you’ve had no notification or justification.
I had a friend. We were pals all thru elementary school (starting in Primary) and thru high school and beyond. We used to hang out all the time. We went to parties together, went shopping together, I even got her a job with me years ago. Eventually I moved in just up the street from where she and her then-boyfriend lived. And she house-sat directly across the street from me. She was one of those friends who was always in your back pocket. And then one day she was gone.
Without notice or explanation she cut me off. No, she cut me out….out of her life and I haven’t heard from her since. Occasionally I will see her pop up on Facebook (just in passing since she also removed me as a friend) and I can see that in the few years since she booted me from her life she has gotten married to a new guy (the one I believe she may have cut me off for…she’s one of those girls who will do whatever it takes for her beau) and had a baby.
I, at first, made several attempts at communication. I sent her emails explaining that during our last communications – by phone and email – all was well and that I’m not understanding what had happened. I’d asked her several times for at least a reason or explanation on why she is throwing away our 25+ year friendship. I never received a reply. Ever.
One day I got really peeved and had had enough. I sent her a wonderfully semi-nasty email telling her how immature she was and if she ever decided to grow up and grow a backbone and let me know what exactly the problem was I would be happy to hear it. But I’m so done with it.
In all honesty, yes, it hurts. It saddens me – I think mostly because I just don’t have a reason. But I still pray for her happiness and well-being and I know that some day she might break down and let me know. But I have moved on. I really don’t have room in my life for fairweather friends and I refuse to be a doormat to ANYONE. So, until the day that I hear something from her (I’m not holding my breath) I will continue to think of her on occasion and wish only good things for her.
Cheers to my REAL friends. 😉